The Trigger.
- Jan 1, 2022
- 3 min read
Let's talk about triggers. Triggers are reminders of past traumas. It can come from a memory or an emotion. Then, you have things like behavior or witnessing someone be treated a certain way, and it causes triggers within you. It reminds you of something or someone that was a bad experience for you. It reminds you of something traumatic you've been through. Prompting a wounded feeling that brings much discomfort.
If you find yourself in a space of healing but often become triggered by situations or people, this blog is for you.
Let's identify our triggers.
In order to identify what triggers us, we must be aware of the way something or someone makes us feel. Awareness will be important. Once you notice a pattern in the way your emotions or intuition speak to you when certain events happen or when certain people are around, you have become aware of the things that trigger you. In these moments, you will feel uncomfortable, you will feel sadness, anger, frustration, the list goes on.
It's important, that when you realize these negative emotions arising from being triggered, you respond, instead of react.
Responding does not necessarily mean giving the trigger attention. That's what it wants. Instead, breathe. Put your best forward to relax the best you can. You can, get some air, remove yourself from the situation to get peace and allow yourself to be open minded.
Know that many times, especially in situations where you find someone has said certain things to you, to in fact trigger you because they want your attention, they are projecting.
Acknowledge the way your are feeling.
Honestly, it is okay to feel. We have to give ourselves that grace. It is okay to allow yourself to feel your emotions. Holding in the way you feel is not healthy. Still, you have to know there are healthy ways to release the emotions as well.
There is nothing wrong with crying. Personally, I use to feel so soft. Now, I simply embrace it. Why hold it in? Because there's this thing where crying, showing your emotions is looked down upon. Listen, if you need to cry, let it the hell out. This is where you stop giving a damn about what people think of you.
Aside of crying though, (lol) you can journal it. Writing was always something so therapeutic for me. Going so long without writing sent me into a world of frustration. Simply holding everything in and not releasing any of the emotions I was feeling. I'd recommend giving it a try.
Understand that when people project, it says more about themselves than it ever will about you.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where, instead of someone simply owning their shit, they would rather project their self-hatred, disappointment and insecurities onto the people around them. The messed up thing, is that it's usually the people that they are close with, not strangers. Though it's pretty sick either way.
You can tell by how someone feels about themselves by the way they treat the people around them. So, if you have someone who likes to constantly talk down upon you and make you seem like "the problem" 9 times out of 10 they’re fighting demons and lack self love.
Remember, people's actions will speak louder than their words ever could.
Take back your power.
It is so important that we remember, we are in control of our emotions and the way we react to things. No matter what or who. This is how you take back your power. Do not allow people to take your happiness away from you or take you out of your element and have you acting senseless. You are in control, not them.
TRUST ME!! I KNOW it is easier said than done. I've had to talk to God a few times today! But listen, learn from it and do better.
People will do and say what they like, in their own right. Be informed that this doesn't mean you have to join them in their negativity. Stay grounded. There is so much power in remaining calm in front of those who foolishly think they have enough power over you to make you act out at their demand.
I hope you've taken something from this post.
With all of my love,
Yanni Jay
-xoxoxo
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